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Been there, done that, took longer than it should have. This is excellent advice for taking care of yourself and getting what you deserve.
Good answer, Mr. Bowen.
Lovers and Other Strangers is a movie this reminded me of, her comment that he was not what she thought. In the movie, a son is being divorced by his wife because she does not feel the same. She tells his parents, when we first were together I used to smell his hair and it smelled like raisins and it doesnt' any more. Naturally the older people are bewildered. The son tells his father my wife and I are strangers. The father says everyone is strangers but as time goes on you become deeper strangers. Attitudes have changed since then, of course, but the movie is pretty good.