Good post, Sir. Very fortunate nephew! Yes, loneliness, perhaps the biggest problem on the planet, is the driving factor. (I have rarely heard the word *heuristics* — translation: trial and error, discovery, a finding — since divinity school.) So, regarding the power question, let’s travel back to the Garden of Eden for a brief observation: “man dominates — woman manipulates”. Yet they can become “one flesh” in a power-sharing arrangement, if we are interested in pleasing and enjoying each other; and sharing space, beyond mere sensations. (Wife and I, no kids, are still married and living together as best of friends, after 45 years.)
I’m presently reading David McCullough’s Pulitzer Prize-winning biography of John Adams, who more than anybody else (including Jefferson and Washington, and countless fallen warriors, seems to me to have given us this republic). He and his wife were best of friends during years of separation due to Independence, Revolution, and Diplomacy-with-France. Yet their marriage survived due to *friendship*. (My wife, our entertainment director, tells me that Paul Giamatti plays Adams in a PBS series which we will now begin watching.).
Perhaps this above-mentioned word is a secret floor on your metaphorical elevator? Getting off at this floor, after the manner of Socrates, rhetorically, I might ask: “What is friendship?” (Ref: John 15:12-15) Note for nephew: Friendship is not transactional in a marketplace: “What can I get for what I’ve got”?! Better question: “What am I bringing to the party?” OR, “What is love?"
Thank you for another thought-provoking post. There are many nuggets in here. At some point, I may share with my high school son.
Loneliness mitigation was an underlying theme to the piece. If someone does not feel lonely and they are single, do they need a relationship?
I think your insight about the power in a relationship is critical. Can power be shared?
Good post, Sir. Very fortunate nephew! Yes, loneliness, perhaps the biggest problem on the planet, is the driving factor. (I have rarely heard the word *heuristics* — translation: trial and error, discovery, a finding — since divinity school.) So, regarding the power question, let’s travel back to the Garden of Eden for a brief observation: “man dominates — woman manipulates”. Yet they can become “one flesh” in a power-sharing arrangement, if we are interested in pleasing and enjoying each other; and sharing space, beyond mere sensations. (Wife and I, no kids, are still married and living together as best of friends, after 45 years.)
I’m presently reading David McCullough’s Pulitzer Prize-winning biography of John Adams, who more than anybody else (including Jefferson and Washington, and countless fallen warriors, seems to me to have given us this republic). He and his wife were best of friends during years of separation due to Independence, Revolution, and Diplomacy-with-France. Yet their marriage survived due to *friendship*. (My wife, our entertainment director, tells me that Paul Giamatti plays Adams in a PBS series which we will now begin watching.).
Perhaps this above-mentioned word is a secret floor on your metaphorical elevator? Getting off at this floor, after the manner of Socrates, rhetorically, I might ask: “What is friendship?” (Ref: John 15:12-15) Note for nephew: Friendship is not transactional in a marketplace: “What can I get for what I’ve got”?! Better question: “What am I bringing to the party?” OR, “What is love?"
~eric.
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